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Babies habbits in China
Posted January 1st, 2013 - 2:04 pm by from Landaul, France (Permalink)
Hello, I am a young mother of a 2 months little girl and we started practicing "EC-Elimination Communication". I heard that it is used by the most part of Humanity: babies without diapers and parents who are listenning to their need without just let them in diapers.

I would like to understand how do you do it in your "all day" life. I heard about "chinese pants" that are splits at the crotch.

With friends, we are thinking to come in China when my daughter is 10 months so it would be a great pleasure to learn more about your culture with babies and how I can practice it, in my country and after in yours when we'll come

Posted January 8th, 2013 - 3:46 pm by from Beijing, China (Permalink)
sorry I dont understand ur opinion but I could tell u how we do that.most young couple let their parents feed baby.

btw,why u wanna ur baby come to china?just learn culture?

Posted January 8th, 2013 - 7:48 pm from Invercargill, New Zealand
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Posted January 8th, 2013 - 8:09 pm by from Vienna, Austria (Permalink)
While I was teaching in China, I became aware of a number of children who had been kind of "abandoned" by their parents letting the grandparents or other older relatives take care of the child while the parents were making money in another city or province.

I was a bit surprised by that as here in central Europe many young couples want to see their child or children grow up and try to spend as much time as possible with them and for a number of years now the government has been supporting a system where either parent stays home for a longer period of time - a year or a year and a half, alternatively of course.

I assume that this is a development we will see in China as well at some point, probably in the larger cities first. However, I also noticed that even with one child only, the whole situation of fees and expenses is set up in such a way that it is almost impossible to raise a child on only one salary in China which always surprised me considering that communism is still the political system ...

Posted January 8th, 2013 - 8:13 pm by from Vienna, Austria (Permalink)
I would also assume that Chinese split baby pants would be accepted in public life in Europe ...

Posted January 9th, 2013 - 2:41 am by from Beijing, China (Permalink)
u guys dont use split baby pants?wow I never know before...suppose everyone I met have split pants in china.

lthough the young parents want to see their children but u know they have to work in order to earn money,once woman have baby she lose her job.(law cant protect most pregnant woman)

The nursery exposed scandal led to parents think whether they should look after baby by themselves or not.(no money or no time)

Posted January 9th, 2013 - 5:50 am from Invercargill, New Zealand
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Posted January 9th, 2013 - 10:16 am from Karamay, China
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Posted January 9th, 2013 - 8:31 pm from Invercargill, New Zealand
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Posted January 14th, 2013 - 6:35 am from Sydney, Australia
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Posted January 14th, 2013 - 2:16 pm by from Wuhan, China (Permalink)
Bonsoir Nolwenn,
hi guys,

read through the whole thread with interests and had to pitch in! i'm a foreign-born and raised chinese married to a local born and raised chinese and we're raising our almost 10-month old in Chongqing, in south-western china.

the whole issue of nappies/diapers (disposable or washable)
against defecating openly on streets and even in-house is one big conversation my wife and i had, and boy she was backed by her mum and sister in law and all!

split pants do mean indeed that babies pee and poo wherever and whenever, usually under supervision (so if grand-pa is taking out baby for a walk in the park, indeed, baby's poo is going to line up next to the doggy's poo..!),
but sometimes accidents happen when the baby is too young and not at all toilet-trained!
I saw my niece (from my wife's side) grow up with split pants and has peed in different places on the floor at my in-law's appartment when she was very little,
then in pots and buckets when she knew better to warn beforehand.
if she was outside, it goes into the gutter on the side of the street, park or sidewalks.

I argued with my wife that this is no way to raise a child
as i consider my baby a bit different than a dog i walk on a leash...
she fully agreed though there's the whole hygienic argument that she gave me when our Laetitia was less than 3 months old: diapers (cloth ones or disposable ones)
generate rashes on baby's soft skin.


it is still common practice in China to let babies wearing split pants and poo/pee in public spaces,
actually that caused a row in HK around early 2012 when mainland mum's would hvae their baby pee in the park,
some local park-goers just didn't agree, which put quite
some oil in the whole HK/Mainland hate fire that was going on back then;

most of mainlanders couldn't understand that reactions by the HK park-goers...


so quite part of one of the big china VS western cultural differences!