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Posted October 1st, 2012 - 5:04 pm from Lahore, Pakistan
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Posted October 1st, 2012 - 5:23 pm by from Abbottabad, Pakistan (Permalink)
LOL , good ,

Posted October 1st, 2012 - 5:39 pm by from Doha, Qatar (Permalink)
It's like handing a set of drums to a monkey... "Wo bajayga nahin to khaak apni pehchaan banayega..."

On a more serious note.... Fariha, I'd advise you to write to the moderators. CS takes action against such unwelcome spam, especially if it extends to the stage of harrasment.

Posted October 1st, 2012 - 6:17 pm by from Peshawar, Pakistan (Permalink)
lol, everywhere they do is sharmol :S...dnu wat to do wid sort of pakistani lot...


Posted October 1st, 2012 - 6:18 pm by from Karachi, Pakistan (Permalink)
Please dont make this place shitty..do whatever you can do in your limits ..ignore ..fuck ..whatever ..get a life

Posted October 2nd, 2012 - 8:37 am by from Multan, Pakistan (Permalink)
As you are working in NGO , you will be aware of the rules and regulations of Pakistan. I am not sure but I think these kind of actions are illegal and one can be punished for sexual harassment with the help of cyber crime cell.

You can also report these profiles to the moderator. If we start reporting these kind of profiles I doubt we will loose majority of the male CS members from Pakistan.

It is not a very good thing to share but unfortunately that kind of attitude every girl has to face in majority of the Asian especially Muslim countries. This behavior towards females is not about CS but here we reflect the mentality we have in our society. As these things cannot be removed itself we need to be aware and discuss these kind of harassing activities. Education can play a vital role in this regard.

Better if we can arrange some kind of learning sessions about CS its objectives, impact of our actions, the ethics, code of conduct, unethical and unlawful actions not only to improve our behavior on the group but also for making a better society for women to live in. I also miss CS activities to provide information to the new members and pointing out and discuss these kind of issues. There should be some actions to tackle and provide remedies at least to discourage this behavior.

Khuram

Posted October 2nd, 2012 - 2:29 pm by from Karachi, Pakistan (Permalink)
LOLZ Interesting terminologies

- Uncles / Gentlemen's and Old men

- WHITE MEAT

- Wo bajayga nahin to khaak apni pehchaan banayega

- get a life

and last but not least...

- they are always after the same thing !!!!!

;-)

... and yes, "report to admin"

Posted October 2nd, 2012 - 3:40 pm by from Lahore, Pakistan (Permalink)
Well said Khurram,You have summed it up nicely. I will be all in for any informal session regarding CouchSurfing in general. We can have pics from other meetups, activities, tours & trips that we had in past from couch-surfing platform. Guess it will be a nice little meetup.

As far as I know, Nabil is Lahore's ambassador, and we can report incidents like the ones you encountered to him, and he can take it up at moderator level. Secondly, you can also flag a Couch invite or a post as inappropriate as well.

Ours is a strangely weird society when it comes to interaction between genders. Guess what you have pointed out is just one of the many things. Hopefully people will learn to live and let live..... at-least on this platform!


Posted October 2nd, 2012 - 5:57 pm by from Lahore, Pakistan (Permalink)
Thanks to Geomentary to advertise CS among common men & women in Pakistan :p

Posted October 3rd, 2012 - 6:58 am by from Lahore, Pakistan (Permalink)
100% agreed with Shoyeed "Thanks to Geomentary".

Posted October 6th, 2012 - 2:42 am from London, England
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Posted October 6th, 2012 - 8:46 am by from Karachi, Pakistan (Permalink)
good reply ....

Posted October 7th, 2012 - 2:05 am from London, England
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Posted October 7th, 2012 - 6:28 pm by from Putrajaya, Malaysia (Permalink)
the entire thread both revolting and superfluous, i understand if the mails were inappropriate, then the moderators should be notified...but was it really necessary to bring it up as a topic here and soil our group? :(

Posted October 7th, 2012 - 7:06 pm by from Lahore, Pakistan (Permalink)
Although your question is valid, and it "might" be debatable, but I agree with bringing up this topic in this way.

In social sciences it is an old adage, commonly referred to as "Name & Shame" (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Name_and_shame)

The purpose is to bring to light a practice that is done with malign intent. It worked in highlighting corporate greed, and there are various examples related to maltreatment of slaves back in US history, during the Apartheid rule in South Africa, in the Israel's treatment of Palestinians. Even in our history (with regards to Indian independence movement) we still name likes of Mir Jafar & Mir Sadiq. In 2007 LUMS students launched a similar camapign against various members of military rule which were trying to undermine different civilian institutions.

I applaud the lady who brough this topic on CS. It is no longer a small community (thanks to media coverage). One common complaint by CSers, especially ladies coming from other countries is the "staring", and then on "perception" of locals regarding western women.

Probably a lot of us men, on CS here in Pakistan (be it Lahore, Rawalpindi, Karachi, Quetta or other active CS communities) are like that. We dont get much opportunities to interact with the other gender, and when we do, we are quite single tracked.

Hope this thread will help us improve ourselves, and avoid such issues in future. We already have shortage of women on CS, beleive me it is like that. In my years on CS I have come across less than half a dozen women who actively take part in CS events and gatherings. Hope and pray that us men will act more responsibly and we have less of these "frandship" messages coming up.

fingers crossed, in solidarity :) Hoping for the best!!!!

Posted January 1st, 2013 - 11:54 am by from Karachi, Pakistan (Permalink)
Thanks for introducing me to some new phrases.

1). Shame and Name
and
2). All females get emails.


:-)

Posted February 20th, 2013 - 12:10 am by from Hamburg, Germany (Permalink)
:)

Posted December 28th, 2012 - 8:20 pm from Istanbul, Turkey
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Posted December 31st, 2012 - 7:12 am by from Islamabad, Pakistan (Permalink)
Wasting time on fake profile reference and picture,

lets do something creative to make this world beautiful

Happy New Year

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Posted January 1st, 2013 - 12:02 pm by from Multan, Pakistan (Permalink)
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Posted January 6th, 2013 - 3:09 pm from Rawalpindi, Pakistan
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Posted February 8th, 2013 - 1:05 pm by from Krakow, Poland (Permalink)
I think men who do things like that should be listen, so we wll be more careful who we chat with

Posted February 16th, 2013 - 9:32 am by from Mainz, Germany (Permalink)
Though I second your concerns about people taking CS primarily as a "night stand" community in the first impression, I totally disagree that it happens in Pakistan only. Some months back I was backpacking in Italy and even on some of their groups you could see girls reporting harassment. Even one of the girls got physically molested by a host.
Every person on this forum has the responsibility to report any suspicious person to the authorities. Moreover I would urge people to check a person for his references, location verification and vouched for, before you plan to contact him/her.

Regards
Pharaz

Posted February 16th, 2013 - 10:26 am by from Hunza, Pakistan (Permalink)
Agree with Pharaz