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Posted February 10th, 2013 - 2:27 pm by from Langley, United States (Permalink)
In the US I always tip 20% at restaurants.
For a taxi, if it's a $15 fare, I tip $2.
Drinks at a bar, at least $1 a drink.
Help with wheelchair/luggage at the airport, $10-20 depending on how much work it was.
Hair dresser, $25 cut/style, tip $5.

Cherie

Posted February 10th, 2013 - 4:28 pm from Hebden Bridge, England
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Posted February 11th, 2013 - 8:38 pm by from Los Angeles, United States (Permalink)
You are not required to pay a tip to something you would order from a counter. For example, coffee, ice cream, bakery goods... they may have a TIPS jar but you are not obligated to put anything in it. I don't believe that the owner is calculating those tips into their pay but I may be mistaken. On the other hand, someone that waits on you, a food server, you should at least include a 15% tip. The IRS assumes that a server is making at least 15% of their sales numbers.

Posted February 11th, 2013 - 9:16 pm from Hebden Bridge, England
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Posted February 11th, 2013 - 12:32 am by from New York, United States (Permalink)
in NY the tax on the bill 8.375% so we double the tax and add extra to make 20%. We tip 20% irregardless if the service is good or not. I would have no idea what they tip in a bar.

J

Posted February 11th, 2013 - 2:13 am by from Langley, United States (Permalink)
That's about the same here, too.

Cherie

Posted February 11th, 2013 - 2:19 am by from Langley, United States (Permalink)
We support the worker.

We know they don't make a living wage, so we add the extra tip needed to maintain their dignity.

Sometimes it's 20 percent or more: who cares?

What is it worth to provide services to others?

We will take care of each other, or not.

I think we will.

Cherie

Posted February 11th, 2013 - 3:21 am from Mumbai, India
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Posted February 11th, 2013 - 2:43 pm by from Langley, United States (Permalink)
I'm with you, Kris.

We have a farmer's market here in the spring and summer, and there are some kids that play violin there for tips. They get hours of practice and we get great entertainment.

Cherie

Posted February 11th, 2013 - 6:22 pm from Hebden Bridge, England
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Posted February 11th, 2013 - 10:30 pm by from Langley, United States (Permalink)
When I was 19 I arrived in Detroit after driving across the country from Seattle.

I got a waitress job right away: pay $1.65 an hour. I took home anywhere from $50-100 a day (depending what day of the week) in tips. Then, after a couple of months, I moved from the main dining room to one of the bars. Still made $1.65 an hour, but took home between $100 and $200 a day in tips.

Paid my way through college that way.

Cherie

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Posted February 14th, 2013 - 3:51 am by from Langley, United States (Permalink)
Isn't modern technology wonderful?

Cherie

Posted February 14th, 2013 - 5:45 am from Rotterdam, Netherlands
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Posted February 17th, 2013 - 5:52 am by from Langley, United States (Permalink)
"All summer, blissfully ignorant, I tipped 15%, or 20% if the service was great. Only later did I find out that in France the tip is included in the price."

And you don't think you brought joy and pleasure to every service person who benefited from your blunder?

I think it's brilliant!
Well worth the amusement factor.

Cherie

Posted February 17th, 2013 - 8:19 am from Rotterdam, Netherlands
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Posted February 15th, 2013 - 1:39 am by from Langley, United States (Permalink)
That should have been made clear when they booked the cruise. I wonder if the cruise line told them up front that they would be charged that.

When I've cruised (3 times), the cruise line recommends how much gratuity for each attendant for how many days. Cabin Boys are different from waiters are different from bartenders.

I guess "be aware" is the best motto.

Cherie

Posted February 15th, 2013 - 1:30 am by from Langley, United States (Permalink)
Sounds wonderful!
We're a little behind the times here, but AmazonFresh (Amazon is based here in Seattle) is offering home delivery service to some areas:

http://fresh.amazon.com/

Unfortunately, my zip code isn't included yet in their service area: they have to take a boat to get it here to Whidbey Island. Pooh.

Cherie

Posted February 19th, 2013 - 11:19 pm from Kuenzelsau, Germany
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Posted February 21st, 2013 - 2:14 am by from Langley, United States (Permalink)
Right on, George.
I choose the same path.

Cherie

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Posted February 20th, 2013 - 3:38 pm by from Langley, United States (Permalink)
George

Those self check out stations are losing favor with store owners.

Apparently when left to ourselves to check out, we "forget" to scan the more expensive purchases! The human monitors try to keep an eye on everyone, but the stores are losing.

Cherie

Posted February 13th, 2013 - 1:03 am from Dawsonville, United States
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Posted February 12th, 2013 - 12:06 am by from Daylesford, Australia (Permalink)
there was an interesting system of pay when i was working my way through university, in germany.
beer gardens employed waitresses who received 10% of what they sold. so, if you were quick and worked hard, you got a decent wage. very german, that.
tips depended largely on quick service (schnell, fraulein, schnell!!)big smiles and quick repartees to cheeky remarks. you got them laughing, they tipped generously, especially after several beers.

also, food and beer prices were usually engineered in such a way that rounding up was easy, while insisting on exact payment made the patrons look shabby. who wouldn't pay 10 deutschmarks for a schnitzel mit kartoffelsalat that was priced at 8.50?

and, ahem, our bavarian dirndl outfits, with the decolletages and swirling petticoats, probably helped as well....

in australia there is no tipping, officially.
most people though, being aware of the bloody hard work of waiters, hotel staff, taxi drivers, etc, do tip, especially for good service.

when i am in hotels overseas, i leave a daily tip for the housemaids who do my room. i draw a picture of a girl with a broom and a stack of manchester in her arms, add a $5 note, a smiley face as signature, put a glass on top.
as a result i get treated like a queen during my stay and can be sure that the management does not steal the women's tips.

:>) roo

Posted February 12th, 2013 - 12:27 am by from Langley, United States (Permalink)
Great idea for your room attendant.

I usually carry envelopes along and write "Thank you for your service" on the outside.
Hmmmm...I guess I should consider writing writing in THEIR language, not mine.

Cherie

PS I know what a broom is, but what's a manchester?

Posted February 12th, 2013 - 1:04 am by from Daylesford, Australia (Permalink)
Manchester's, yankeebabe, is sheets, towels and such.

i always learn some basic words, (thank you, please, very good, hello, good bye, beautiful, too expensive, don't do that, etc) before i arrive in a new country. good thing to do, on the boring plane.

but little drawings speak clearly and are also amusing. i left a cartoon of my person, in the fridge, one time. first picture, me crying, holding an empty bottle of water, upside down. second picture, me laughing and dancing, holding 3 full bottles in my arms.
always had 3 chilled bottles, after that.
much more fun than leaving requests at the front desk...

the daily tips reduce the maid's anxiety of waiting whether there will be one, at the end. a maid in thailand, for example, would be lucky to earn $200 a month. so, if she works 25 days she'd get about $8 per day, so perhaps $1 an hour.
this means that my $5, next to nothing to me, are quite significant to her.
hence my royal status, during my stay...

try and check out average earnings on google, before you travel somewhere. that puts things in perspective.
you'll also know you are being had, if a taxi driver tries to charge you the equivalent of a doctor's monthly pay for a day's touring...

crafty roo :>)

Posted February 12th, 2013 - 1:38 am from Port Macquarie, Australia
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Posted February 12th, 2013 - 2:15 am by from Daylesford, Australia (Permalink)
thank you, dear maureen.
i'd love to send drawings but i am a computer dummy and don't know how to do that...
as to simple drawings, you could possibly find instructions on google about stick figures, etc.

and yes patty, good point.

another thing i do is play little language exchange games with hotel staff. like saying sawadee - hello and getting them to repeat. then move to other relevant bits of english, all so very useful for them and likely to get them more tips.

last time in chiangmai, i had my usual little hotel, as a base, for 3 weeks. i was travelling with a friend who needed all her teeth fixed, at a very good price. so she went to the dentist's, five days a week, while i roamed chiang mai and surroundings, on my own.

right away i started with a little hospitality english. after a few days i had both hotel maids plus their relatives and a few friends from nearby eateries and hotels, gathering in the late afternoon. we sat under a tree in the buddha garden for an hour or so every day and i taught them useful words and phrases, in english, german and french.

they were so eager, incredibly grateful and how much fun it was.

all round the hotel, in the shops and eateries,the massage place, even at the bank, i got preferential treatment. 'lady teacher' was seated right next to the fan, got served first, had stuff carried for her, you name it.
giving away the gift of languages is a very good way of meeting locals. so much fun, as well. try it.

:>) roo


Posted February 12th, 2013 - 2:19 am by from Daylesford, Australia (Permalink)
it's all free, dear cherie
(notice the rhyme?)
:>)

Posted February 12th, 2013 - 3:54 am by from Langley, United States (Permalink)
It's like a tip, dear Roo
Appreciation well due. ;D

Cherie

Posted February 12th, 2013 - 2:03 am by from Langley, United States (Permalink)
Yes!
Crafty Roo!

Best make lots of money selling travel do's and don'ts to the rest of us!

Hugs
Cherie


Posted February 11th, 2013 - 10:22 pm by from Langley, United States (Permalink)
Agreed.

We have minimum wage here, too (Washington state is the highest in the country), but it isn't enough to live on in most cases.

Cherie

Posted February 17th, 2013 - 11:54 pm by from London, England (Permalink)
In England, I usually tip 10% or a little more. More for good service, less for bad service. Unless there is a service charge, in which case I decline to add to it. These are the default rules I apply in other countries, unless I know the local tipping customs.

In the US, I would pay about 15%, knowing that the staff live on the tips and the cost of the food is in any case usually lower and service better than in the UK.

I have got it wrong in other countries. In Vietnam, I left a tip on the table. The staff came running out after me to return it thinking I'd left it by mistake. Mind you, on another occasion I actually left an iPad in the restaurant by mistake, and was grateful when they came out after me. In China, I tried to explain to the waitress that I wanted to tip for very good service. She assumed that I was asking for change for the bill that I was trying to give her, and came back with a wad of 1 Yuan notes.

In India, I used the reciprocal facilities of the Calcutta Club. My club in London has a no tipping rule, which I applied here. I found the service was getting progressively worse. I mentioned this to a member of the club, who said that there was indeed a no tipping rule, but unless you surreptitiously tipped, then this is what would happen.

. I am finding out that in East Asia, nobody tips, and the service is usually excellent.

Oh well, we live and learn by travelling

Posted February 14th, 2013 - 5:44 pm from Brooklyn, United States
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Posted February 15th, 2013 - 1:51 am by from Langley, United States (Permalink)
This might be a bit off topic, but I love the "pay it forward" movement.

It seems to be catching on here in the US.

What a wonderful feeling of comradery: I don't know you, but I'll pay for your food/toll/ticket, in hopes you'll pay for the next person.

And we DO! LOL!!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xfgDTqEwAJQ

Cherie

Posted February 15th, 2013 - 3:36 am from Sydney, Australia
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Posted February 12th, 2013 - 4:34 pm by from Yangon, Myanmar (Burma) (Permalink)
In the US, tourism and food businesses have made sure that the minimum wage for certain categories of employees is much lower than everyone else. I speak from knowledge as I wrote the last two laws to increase the minimum wage in my home state of Massachusetts. I was able to get the minimum wage increased to $8 per hour for all employees except waiters, bartenders, bell hops and similar service employees. Their minimum wage is currently $2.35 per hour. This sub-minimum wage means that a worker must receive tips.

Be assured that if you give less than 15% in tips you will be insulting the employee who will interpret your act as overt hostility, even if you do it out of ignorance.

The next time you go traveling, look in a travel book about the local tipping custom and obey it. None of us is so wise as to know everything about new places.

Posted February 13th, 2013 - 12:38 am from Kuenzelsau, Germany
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Posted February 18th, 2013 - 12:21 am by from Livingston Manor, United States (Permalink)
Travelers (and Americans, too) need to realize that much of our government action caters to the desires of those rich enough to finance political campaigns and then influence the officeholders. In any other context it would be called bribery, but here the line between legal and illegal is arbitrarily drawn.

Employee compensation is a major eample. The minimum wage for those who receive tips is substantially lower than for everyone else. In New York State, $5.00 vs $7.25.

Thus, tips are an official contribution toward earning the regular minimum wage, which is by no means a "living" wage. Technically, the employer must make up any difference if total tips fall short, but any worker who requested this would likely be replaced with someone else.

Regardless of the service you get, you're hurting the server if you tip less than 15% of the total bill, and 20% is more appropriate. You can thank our spineless legislators and the restaurant industry lobbyists for passing this responsibility on to you.

Remember, too, that in many establishments the server shares tips with behind-the-scenes staff, so what you leave gets split up later.

Finally, keep in mind that if you anger your server early on, your food may very well include unwanted bodily fluids. That's a rather disgusting thought, but everyone in food service has witnessed such incidents in kitchens.

Posted February 17th, 2013 - 11:08 pm by from San Antonio, United States (Permalink)
In US most servers of any sort expect a tip, despite quality of service. Because employers often underpay them, they are dependent on tips. Despite that, many Americans are reluctant to pay for poor service (I am one of them). A surprising number of places add a tip automatically, and when service has been inadequate I have sometimes asked to have it reduced. Not a good system...but when in Rome...

Posted February 18th, 2013 - 12:41 am by from Southfield, United States (Permalink)
Tipping in the U.S. is something you're expected to do and should do but not something you have to do in most establishments. If the service is bad you can leave what you think is appropriate. Depending on the area you are in tipping can be as high as 25% in fine restaurants in cities like New York. Most people in the U.S. give 15-20% tip. Sometimes the tip is automatically added if you're with a group of five or more. So make sure they haven't already added a "gratuity." You'd be paying for a tip twice. The waiter is paid very little per hour so in the U.S the waiter depends on tips to make a living. The more expensive the restaurant the more the waiter gets in tips because of the percentage system.

Posted February 21st, 2013 - 12:19 am from Los Alamitos, United States
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Posted February 18th, 2013 - 1:21 am by from Redlands, United States (Permalink)
I'm from California. We're pretty casual on the West Coast, but tipping is not only polite but expected. If my friends don't tip at lunch, I think privately they are cheap and ungrateful. In the U.S. the recommended tip is 15%, but my husband and I tip 20% because the owners pay waiters minimum wage and expect them to make up the difference by tips. Lousy system, but we feel sorry for the wait staff. However, in a high end restaurant, they can make a good wage just in tips. If I am peeved by a rude waiter, or get lousy service, I tip 5-10% which is insulting to them and shows my displeasure, but that rarely ever happens. Waiters are almost always hard-working and attentive.

We don't do cabs or bars, so no advice there.

I've read that if you want really good service at a hotel or fancy restaurant, give the head waiter or desk person $20 ahead of time when asking for the best room or table available, but we don't do that because we're more frugal and not particularly fussy. I do remember 30 years ago my husband gave the head waiter a $20 tip while we waited for a table at a very fancy restaurant, and we were seated in the front center row where we could see the show really well. So it works! Sounds more like a bribe, huh?

A hair-dresser gets a tip, but not if they are the shop owner, because the owner gets rent from the other stalls.

At the airport or a hotel we usually slep our own luggage, but when we do get help, $1 a bag is normal.

Posted February 18th, 2013 - 1:52 am by from Delmar, United States (Permalink)
I am not certain that anyone else has addressed this, but be aware that wait staff in the US is paid an hourly wage of less than $3 per hour; restaurant owners are not required to pay them the minimum wage, based on the assumption that they will be tipped at a minimum rate of 15% of sales. Ergo, the IRS determination.

That being said, I practice over tipping, particularly at downscale places, and at breakfast.

When I am in Europe, I must rememberd to hold back a bit....

Posted February 18th, 2013 - 11:23 am by from Niagara Falls, Canada (Permalink)
Dutch Delight: Just adding our "two cents" here...

In North America it has become commonplace that 15-20% is the "tip" on most any restaurant bill. Some places actually add 18% to the bill automatically for parties of a certain number. It is sad to say that it doesn't seem to have anything to do with excellent service any longer.

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Posted February 19th, 2013 - 2:29 am by from Scottsdale, United States (Permalink)
10 % or less if your not happy with the service. If your really not happy, complain to the Dining Room Mgr or owner.

Good service at least 15% and excellent 20%


That is it...In other countries the Restaurant pays employees more so operating Labor Costs are more so they usually build it into your meal price...or only have one or two service people for the the whole dining room so your wait more.

Here the service staff is subsidized by your tips and the owners Labor cost is less...If the owner is a good restaurateur he will staff the dining room so everyone gives good service and the service people get good tips.

If the owner is greedy, he will staff less or allow the service staff to "Handle" more...but service is compromised. It is not always the service person's fault if they are understaffed or ill trained because of poor management.

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Posted February 19th, 2013 - 1:14 pm by from Niagara Falls, Canada (Permalink)
Amanda's reply is an excellent explanation of the server's point of view. I would like to play devil's advocate for a moment (and just btw I have been a bartender in both Canada and the United States, in both union and non-union positions for almost 40 years.)

1. Just as you say that people who do not want to tip should not eat in a restaurant, many people have told me in no uncertain terms that servers who do not understand that tipping is voluntary should not work in a serving position.

2. Some would remind us that the fact that you make about these positions being minimum wage (and it is not a living wage) has absolutely nothing to do with the patrons of the restaurant!!! The opposing point of view is to lobby the government for a better minimum wage, speak to your boss or choose a different career.

3. The point about paying tax on the take home tips is irrelevant really. Take home pay (whether salaried or gratuties) is taxable. Unfortunate but true, at least in North America.

4. When you choose to serve in the food/beverage industry, you know you are sometimes serving some people who will not tip as well as other people might. The fact that you emphasize groups choosing not to tip were European/Asian may be your personal experience, but it is what it is. I expect it has no bearing on your point, which is that some people do not tip at all.

5. Your last point is the most interesting. As I said, I have said the same thing at times...when I have, I have been told, tipping is voluntary and if you cannot understand that "sometimes you win,sometimes you lose", you need to choose another line of work.

6. Your last line is the best, "...go to some other establishment that doesn't ask for tips." We would all do well to recognize the keyword, "ASK." Tipping is voluntary.

I guess it is wonderful that we see such divergent points of views. Takes all kinds to make things interesting.

I just know that after almost forty years of working in bars, I can see both points of view and I never EXPECT someone to tip me for simply handing them a beer or bringing them a plate of food. If they do, awesome! If they don't, it's my job to do it just the same!

Posted February 19th, 2013 - 2:35 pm by from Scottsdale, United States (Permalink)
You can add Canadians to those groups

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Posted February 20th, 2013 - 1:41 pm by from Delmar, United States (Permalink)
Here is the US Dept of table minimum hourly wages for tipped employees (my apologies to those who are not numbers nerds like me):

http://www.dol.gov/whd/state/tipped.htm

In most states, the assumption is that combined hourly plus tips meet either state or federal minimum wage requirements.

Again, the US minimum wage is NOT A LIVING WAGE!!!!


Respectfully submitted, Leslie

Posted February 20th, 2013 - 1:44 pm by from Delmar, United States (Permalink)
That's Dept.of Labor, sorry

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Posted February 24th, 2013 - 2:48 am by from London, England (Permalink)
Perhaps if you could tip the self-serve machines you would get a more polite service from them.

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