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4 out of 10 stars.
Posted July 22nd, 2006 - 2:39 am by from Denver, United States (Permalink)
I had a long, flowery, prosaic thing to write about this but I'm going to skip it and just say that the friends links updates really didn't wow me. I pretty much agree with most of the other comments about the new system.

I understand that to make something deeper richer and more connected, the tendency is to try to add more things to help facilitate. In this case, I thought simplier was better.

I don't think it's horrible and I do appreciate how much time and effort it must have taken to create. I also understand that working with a group of people all wanting to add something could lead to a system that has more features than necessary. That's the beauty of collaboration and the beast of collaboration.

Do I really have to go back to all my friends and fill out the form so they can still be my friends? They're still there now. Is this a CS grace period, until at some zero hour all my friends will silently disappear? Say it isn't so CS.

I also feel wierd about rating my experience. I mean really, I wrote what happened with each CS experience in my friend link, and I leave most people refrences. So now, if I leave someone and EXTREMELY POSITIVE it shows up glowing, but if I don't leave that for someone else, there's just a silently HUGE blank that says, why didn't Cindigo think that the experience we had was EXTREMELY POSITIVE. I know that honesty is the best policy, but....I don't know, it just doesn't sit 100% right with me.

I'm sure that that this is one of those things that we'll all get used to and come to like over time.

Maybe start these discussion groups before a major change happens. Maybe they already are, and I'm out of the loop. Maybe a survey on some of the major overhauls before they happen.

My two cents.

Posted July 22nd, 2006 - 2:44 am by from Denver, United States (Permalink)
Alright, I played around with it a little more. Maybe 6 out of 10 stars. Going forward, I can see how it is an improved system. It's just going to take some getting used to.

Posted July 23rd, 2006 - 9:16 am by from Hastings, New Zealand (Permalink)
I really prefer the old system to this new one.

I'm very much in agreement with Cindy about not being comfortable with the 'extremely positive', 'positive' and 'neutral' labels. I think they could potentially be very hurtful, so I'm choosing to keep all of my references as 'neutral'. Otherwise it all begins to feel a bit school-ground-choosing-favourites. Same with the 'best friend', 'good friend' etc.

Really as soon as people read the references (with titles) they can get an idea of how positive or negative the experience was for the author.

I know that the CS concept is all about bringing people together, but I think unfortunately this new system has the potential to be divisive, or at the very least hurt peoples feelings and create misunderstandings.

Posted July 23rd, 2006 - 11:19 pm by from Calgary, Canada (Permalink)
Yes, titles! Or headings, or subjects, or whatever.


Posted August 3rd, 2006 - 5:31 am by from Reston, United States (Permalink)
Hear hear! The titles were the best thing about the references. It was a quick way to get an idea about the reference if you are in a jam for time.

Posted August 24th, 2006 - 3:48 pm from Berlin, Germany
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Posted October 31st, 2006 - 9:45 am by from Auckland, New Zealand (Permalink)
i think the "positive" and "negative" should defintelely stay. people don't read references...not ALL of them anyway. now you can scroll down someone's profile and notice: k, its all green. or: no reds.

the word "extremely" is entirely unnecessary though! it tickles egos but gives no information in my opinion.

Posted October 31st, 2006 - 3:51 pm by from San Francisco, United States (Permalink)
The 'extremely' causes problems. & you're right, it's kind of pointless. I would love to take the "extremely" out!

Posted October 31st, 2006 - 7:23 pm from Pune, India
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Posted November 2nd, 2006 - 1:04 am by from Hastings, New Zealand (Permalink)
I'm still finding the concept of rating a person or an interaction rather draconian.

I agree that the ability to highlight an experience as being 'negative' is useful, as it can offer a warning to other couchsurfers about the possibility of an unsafe experience. However the labels 'extremely positive', 'positive', and the default 'neutral' are so subjective that I just don't see how they serve to assist others. Just because I got on extremely well with a couchsurfer doesn't mean that the next person will too.

Also I wonder how many people have been disappointed after they've opened their homes to a couchsurfer, made their bed up, maybe cooked for them, taken them sightseeing, cleaned up after them, etc, and then not received an 'extremely positive' rating? I think ratings can serve as a disincentive to hosting.